Marriage can offer wonderful benefits for well-being, life satisfaction, and stress management, but no relationship is without its challenges. The common problems of marriage can put a strain on a couple, but there’s a choice in how to handle these issues.
The following are some of the most common sources of marital stress and marriage problems, as well as insights on how to address them.
On the basis of this however, these are the ten common mistakes men make in their various marriages
1. THINKING OF YOUR SATISFACTION ALONE IN THE BEDROOM
Most men are selfish in the bedroom and never think of their wives’ satisfaction. Disregarding the needs of your wife in the bedroom can ruin your sex life. Sex for your wife does not start in the bedroom it starts in her mind. Most men just need a place to have sex your wife need a reason to have sex. Having a good time in the bedroom with your wife requires a very high level of communication, and such conversations should happen when both partners are calm, relaxed, and receptive to ideas. I always remind husbands of this sex rule “Ladies Before Gentlemen”. Take pride in getting your wife there first.
2. NOT TAKING CARE OF YOUR BODY
Most men want their wife to take good care of their body but rarely do that themselves. I have seen so many husbands allow themselves to lose interest in their body and many wives aren’t happy about it. Just as you want your wife to maintain a great body, you ought to do the same.
3. NOT INVOLVING YOURSELF IN CHILD REARING
Most men leave child-rearing for their wives and believe all they need to do is provide for the family. This is wrong! It is a big mistake for a husband to take a backseat when it comes to child-rearing. Spend time with your children and play an active role in their lives along with your wife.
4. FAILURE TO MAKE FUTURE PLANS
As a husband, you need to give your wife and children security by planning for the future. You have to prepare for the future of the marriage, your finances, the children, etc. Don’t be the husband that lives for the now; make plans for retirement, old age, death and when the kids get married, etc.
5. YOU DON’T CONFIDE IN YOUR WIFE
Not confiding in their wife is another common mistake most men make in marriage. Your wife should be your partner, best friend and confidant. She wants to be included in your entire world.
6. YOU DON’T LISTEN TO YOUR WIFE
Most men fail to see their wives as their equal partner, and would rarely listen to her opinion. Learn to listen to what she has to say. Don’t assume you know what your wife is going to say or tune her out because you have heard it all before.
7. YOU ALLOW FAMILY AND FRIENDS TO DISRESPECT YOUR WIFE
You have failed as a husband when you allow your family and friends to disrespect your wife. Anyone that disrespects your wife also disrespects you; it’s as simple as that. Avoid talking bad about your wife in public so she won’t get disrespected. Your family and friends should only know about positives and not the negatives. You and your wife should sort out the negatives together by yourselves.
8. RECKLESS SPENDING
Making big purchases without consulting your wife or spending recklessly is another big mistake most men make in marriage. Keeping a bank account hidden from your wife is a no-no in marriage. When you cut off your wife from knowing about your finances, you make her feel less loved and connected. Your wife needs you to trust her with your heart and your finances.
9. YOU REFUSE TO APOLOGIZE WHEN YOU ARE WRONG
Refusing to apologize when you are wrong is one mistake husbands make in marriage. Many men believe they belittle themselves when they apologize to their wives, and this is wrong. Just because you are a man is no reason not to apologize when you’ve done wrong to your wife.
10. YOU COMPARE YOUR WIFE TO OTHER WOMEN
This could be the death of your marriage. Comparison is dangerous and can destroy your marriage; never compare your wife to other women. There will always be women around you who have traits and strengths that your wife does not have, but do you know the weaknesses these women have? Cherish and honor your wife for who she is, not for what she does or doesn’t do. Of course, there are other couples that you admire and aspire to learn and grow from. the focus is not on one individual but on their overhaul marriage life. However, to compare your wife with another man’s wife is the BIGGEST disrespect you can show your wife.